Tuesday, May 10, 2011


This is a totally judge-free zone, mmmkay? Just so we're clear, I've never made any innuendo that I am actually mother of the year, it's merely a sarcastic joke. You'll see what I mean in a sec.

My name is Keli, and I'm a cusser. (This is where you all say "Hello, Keli," and nod your head approvingly at my desire to bear my soul to you.)

It's true, you know. I'm a cusser. I always have been. I remember distinctly the very first time I said a cuss word. I was in 5th grade. And it just came out. Just popped right out! I was as shocked as my friend that was on the receiving end of it. It was just a "damn", but it was significant. I still remember what it felt like, where I was standing, and even the book that was on the desk in front of me.

But honestly, 5th grade? Why was I even aware of cuss words in 5th grade? I have one answer to that. It's in my genes. My grandpa was a cusser, and my dad was a cusser. I don't think I heard my mom utter more than a few curse words in her life, and most of them were due to my misbehaving and they were usually muttered under her breath. But me? I just have it in me. It's not something I'm proud of.

I have made concerted efforts repeatedly in my life to overcome my curse word affinity, but I always fall back into the same patterns. It doesn't help that I have a bad temper. Those two character traits seem to feed on one another.

So why am I telling you this, you ask? Because I have become very aware of my use of curse words, and my bad influence on people (Jill). My kids notice, and say, "Mom, you shouldn't swear!" And I say I know, but I'm a grown up, blah blah blah. But that's no excuse. So mostly I'm just putting this out there to have it as a record for myself. I need to stop cussing. I need to work on controlling my anger. I need to be a better example to my kids and to certain people. (Jill).

Remember, this is a judge-free zone. I don't need snarky comments about how you never swear and people that do have an obviously lacking grasp of the English language, otherwise they could come up with better words than curse words. I need comments letting me know I'm not alone in my cave of curses, and that you totally get where I'm coming from, because you yourself find comfort in an occasional curse word, especially when your kids have been working your last nerve all day, and you JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!

See? Mother of the year, indeed.

That's what I need.

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Sean Clayton said...

You didn't corrupt poor, innocent Jill...it was me!

Kelley Rae said...

Mark would totally be a casual cusser if he thought he could get away with it. He looks forward to being a grandpa so he can cuss and no one thinks anything of it Ü And you would be surprised how often I let them slip . . . shocking, I know. Ahh, feels good to get that out there!

Tami Allred said...

I think you're right about the genes. I'm not a cusser. My mother and my grandpa who practically raised me were cussers, thus I should be, but for some strange reasons I'm not and it's not because of anything I did or didn't do. My siblings are all cussers too. I honestly think that gene just skipped me and I got everyone's FAT genes instead. So just chalk it up to the gene pool and carry on.

Emily said...

i've been cursing a lot more lately and the kids are picking up on it. ethan tells me to stop all the time. :) and miss izzy has become a curser because of my example. not good... however hilarious it might sound!

grannybabs said...

Not to sound snarky, but I never swear - probably because I never heard it. If anyone in my family swore, it wasn't when I was around. So maybe it is environmental? Of course I hear it all the time now - and it continues to grate - but I try to be helpful rather than critical. And fortunately for me, it's verboten in my work environment - so a kid who does let a word slip in my presence always says "Oops, I'm sorry!"

I wish you well in your efforts - they will pay off I am sure. And if you can't take it anymore, then leave the scene!!

nikkipicky said...

And I thought this post was going to be about menstral cycles. They do call it the curse you know. ;)

I curse too! It's true! Sometimes I wonder if it's even worth working on. ~sigh~ Good luck.

LIZ said...

We all do it, some more then others, but we all do it.