Thursday, July 28, 2011

Big D

Well, I'm sure the news has made it through most of the family and friends by now.
Remember how I said things were changing up? Boy howdy, are they.


Sean and I are getting divorced.


I know, I know, pick your jaw up off the floor. It happens, people. Trust me, we have worked our butts off for years making it work. But honestly, the time comes when there is just no more to give, and it's time to cut your losses.


We are great friends. Always have been. Since Kindergarten, in fact. But sadly friendship doesn't always a great marriage make. We've known for a long time that things were "off", and we've even been separated a time or two. I'm sad to have to put this all out there, but I also need to get it out of my head, because as my loyal readers know, the voices, oh! the voices, they can really be annoying.


The kids are doing okay. I think they were surprised to hear it, but not really that surprised, since they had seen us drift apart over the past few months. I'm heartbroken that they will be children of divorced parents, but I'm also empowered knowing that they can see that as adults you can still communicate with each other without fighting, and that they can still be the most important things in our lives. I hope they know how much I love them.


There is obviously more going on here than I care to discuss on the blog at this time, but trust me, I can't keep anything inside for very long, so eventually it will all come out. Just do me a favor, and be supportive, mmkay? I need to hear that it will all be okay, and that I'm still a good mom, and that my kids won't be sociopathic screw-ups because their dad and I couldn't live together.

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15 comments:

Kalli said...

I'm really sorry to hear that Keli, I wish all the best for your family!

grannybabs said...

Divorce is not the end of the world - but it is the end of a world. And that world is the only one your children have ever known. I'm sure they will not be "sociopathic screw-ups" but they will grieve because you and their dad could not live together. They probably need time and support more than any of the adults The old adage about "walking a mile in someone else's moccasins" certainly applies here. I too wish all the best for your family and you.

Hester said...

Keli- I'm so sorry. I understand more than I wish I did. Have faith. That helps the most.

DAY said...

Hey Keli, I'm sorry to hear about you and Sean, but I'm a child of divorced parents and understand that sometimes, things simply do not work out...I wish you and your sweet family (especially your beautiful girls,) lots of love and strength during this time. Keep the faith!

LuVera said...

Keli, We love you and wish you the best!

Jacob said...

Kelli,

I am at a loss for words ... but I wish you the very best. Unfortunately things usually get worse before they get better. But just hang in there and I am sure you will come through ok. Even though you are officially leaving my extending family ... you will always be a part of it.

mandee said...

We love you all no matter what. I hope you know I am here for you. If you would please call me ANYTIME day or night. I know you are an amazing lady and mom and everything else! You will make it all work out I am sure of that! your kids are just as amazing as you are and they will never forget how much you love them! xoxoxoxox

Tami Allred said...

Sorry about your family situation. Always makes me sad when a marriage doesn't work out. I'm sure there will be more rough patches but there will also be plenty of sunshine cuz that's just what you radiate. Hang in there.

Xazmin said...

Keli,

I'm so sorry. I don't really have any words other than that. I'm here if you need anything.

Jessie said...

keli,
i am sorry that you are facing such a hard time. i know that for the most part we only know each other through the land of the blog. but i do consider you a friend, and hope for the best of happiness for you. you have been through so much these past few years, and i hope that things even themseleves out soon. so if you need anything let me know. i will be thinking of all of you!

The Roberts Family said...

So sorry to hear this! I know your kids will be fine though, because they have mature, parents who will put them first. You are a strong person. In fact, I have always admired your strength and creativity. You will be end up being amazingly happy - things always have a way of working out for the best! <3

Eliza said...

I'm sorry too. I don't think your kids will be sociopathic screwups either. Change is hard but I think as long as you and Sean are still there for them emotionally in your new setup, they will emerge stronger. That's not really spoken from similar experience but just from my own general experience. Your kids seem great and they have lots of love surrounding them. Lots of love to you from me, and I definitely still consider you to be family!!

Stacy O said...

I'm so sorry to hear it Keli. My husband and I also divorced last year, and never in a million years did I think I would ever be divorced. My kids are doing really well. Great communication is the key. Hang in there, you are doing great. :)

Stacy O said...

I'm sorry to hear it Keli. My husband and I divorced last year and never in a million years did I think I would ever be divorced. My kids are doing really great, and yours will too. Good communication is key. Big hugs, you are doing great mom. :)

Wendy Wells said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. Really I am. Your mom is a smart woman when she said "This too shall pass". Wishing ALL of you the very best.